I know many of you were praying for mom to be able to come back from Paris back in November. I wanted to give a quick update/summary of what transpired back then.
Before I was diagnosed, my parents planned to go to Paris for Thanksgiving week, since my dad had a conference there and my parents had an old friend living in Paris. My mom would stay with their friend while my dad would attend the conference.
Once I was diagnosed, my mom offered to just stay back. At the time, I didn't know exactly when chemo would start and I thought it wouldn't start to mid December. I told her to go ahead and go and enjoy eating some good French food and catching up with an old friend.
She had a great time eating, shopping and catching up with her old friend. The day before she was supposed to leave, she went and got her PCR test. To her total shock, the test came back positive! She had absolutely no symptom. Once they found out, her friend sent her up to a room upstairs which also had a bathroom. The French government even requires that when you are in quarantine that you have your own room and your own bathroom. They even call every day to make sure that she is staying in her room.
My dad came back that day from his conference. Even though, my dad offered stayed with my mom, she told him to go to the airport and get a hotel. She told him that he needs to at least get back to take care of me. And it would be a nightmare if he got Covid-19 too! He boarded the plane the next day and made it home.
My mom's gracious friend let her stay at her house for another 2 weeks and brought her meals to her room. They would also setup chairs on opposite side of the hall, and wearing masks, they would also chat throughout the quarantine. Thankfully, her friend's family never got Covid-19 during that time. During this time, it was a huge struggle to figure out what she needed to do to get back home. She couldn't not even get through to the airline on the phone. Therefore, her friend had to call the French government to figure out what she needed to do.
Flight Change #1
They told her not to take the PCR test again because it would come back positive for 2 months. Instead she needs to get these government document signed by a doctor certifying her that she is well. Her friend called a bunch of doctors but the only appointment she could get was 5 days after her quarantine ended.
Flight Change #2
She and her friend's husband went to the doctor's appointment to get these documents signed. However, the doctor was reluctant to sign these documents because he had never done anything like this before. The husband basically told the doctor, we are not going to leave until you signed these documents. Of course, all this conversation was in French. I have no idea what my mom would have done if she didn't have such a good friend living there.
With the documents in hand, she tries again to board the plane. However, they don't even look at the documents. They tell her, she needs a negative PCR test to board the plane. She argues with them, that she was told that she just needed these documents signed by a doctor to board. Their reply was "Rules change everyday!". Which also translate too, no one is exactly sure what the rules are. They tell her that there is a pharmacy inside the terminal and she should get a PCR test.
While she tries to figure out where this pharmacy is, she meets 2 nice college students from the US. One has a green card and the other is a US citizen. As my mom waits to get her PCR test with the college student with a green card, the college student tells my mom, if you are a US citizen, you should go to the pharmacy outside the terminal. My fiend just told me, there is no line and it was quick. (This poor college student was not able to leave terminal because of her nationality.) My mom, then heads to outside the terminal to the pharmacy. The lady at the pharmacy gives my mom a quick swab, barely going into her nose (the one she got the first time was the one they swab all the way up your nose, the one that makes you cry) and then 15 min later, she lets her know she's negative! With that piece of paper, she goes back to the airline counter to reschedule her flight. She had to wait 2 hours in line. She was very fortunate that she was able to reschedule it for the next day. That day, she had arrived at the airport at 6:30am and by the time she was able to reschedule the flight, it was 3:30pm. An exhausting day.
Flight Change #3
She was finally was able to board the plane and make it home! Her one week Paris trip ended up being 3 weeks.
My mom's reflection:
"When I found out my PCR test was positive two days before my return flight, I thought it was a nightmare.
When I had to struggle for two weeks to find out how I can go home, I though it was the worst experience of my life.
I told God with tears, "I need to go home to take care of my daughter. She needs me!" But I had to keep postponing my return flight due to various reasons. Finally, I came back home and saw my daughter one week after her first chemo. I was very grateful that when I could not help her, my husband and my children were able to help her.
When I look back at the time I stayed at my friend's house in Paris, I see the many blessings God had provided.
My dearest friend Dominique and her husband were very kind and taking care of me very well. I stayed in a very spacious room with a great view and had French meals and deserts. Even though Dominque had a bad cold (I didn't have any symptoms), she called the French government many times and did all of the paper work. It was a wonderful blessings to be able to chat with her every day, even during the quarantine time. When we said good bye, she even told me she was happy that I was able to stay with her longer.
After I left Paris, the number of Covid-19 patients increased tremendously. If I had to stay any longer, I don't know if I would ever be able to come home. Now I know God provided me with a best friend, best fellowship, a wonderful room and best time with my friend when I was thinking it's the worst experience of my life because I didn't know when I could go home.
Now I am staying at my sick daughter's house and I don't know how long she will need my help. Learning from my time in Paris, I am sure when I look back at the days in Dallas several years later, I would say that this was a special time where I was blessed to be with my daughter's family."